By Hayden Wright
In Adele’s deeply personal catalog, one of the biggest life changes to occur between 21 and 25 was the birth of her first son, Angelo. Though romantic love remains the singer’s favorite lyrical subject, 25 reveals a maturity and groundedness she’s publicly credited to motherhood. But that’s not the whole story. In a new Vanity Fair cover profile, Adele opens up about postpartum depression and the “bravery” of women who choose to skip motherhood altogether.
“I think it’s the bravest thing not to have a child; all my friends and I felt pressurized into having kids, because that’s what adults do,” she told the magazine. “I love my son more than anything, but on a daily basis, if I have a minute or two, I wish I could do whatever the f— I wanted, whenever I want. Every single day I feel like that.”
The transition even triggered the onset of postpartum depression, which fellow moms helped Adele navigate.
“One day, I said to a friend, ‘I f—in’ hate this,’ and she burst into tears and said, ‘I f—in’ hate this, too,’” she said. “And it was done. It lifted.”
Adele also mentioned a silver lining. Because her boyfriend Simon Konecki has a daughter from a previous relationship, the singer feels no pressure to add another child to her busy, full house: “She’s my get-out-of-jail-free card.”
Ultimately, Adele reveals, motherhood has awakened her to a new kind of selflessness, and put her massive career into perspective.
“You’re constantly trying to make up for stuff when you’re a mom,” she said. “I don’t mind, because of the love I feel for him. I don’t care if I don’t ever get to do anything for myself again.”