Tim Lambesis, the singer for Christian heavy metal band As I Lay Dying, made shocking news on Tuesday (May 7), when he was arrested for allegedly attempting to hire an undercover cop to kill his wife.
In the aftermath of the bizarre incident, divorce papers filed by the singer’s estranged wife Meggan in September of last year have been revealed (via UT San Diego), with claims that the heavy metal frontman was more concerned with living the good life than caring for the couple’s three adopted Ethiopian children.
Citing irreconcilable differences as the reason for the divorce after eight years of marriage, Meggan detailed issues “that concern me regarding his ability to care for our three children. Specifically, he has become obsessed with bodybuilding and spends a great deal of time lifting weights, hanging out in the gym, and being unavailable to the children.”
Also among the wife’s claims are charges that the singer had fallen asleep while supervising the kids near the swimming pool and at the beach, and would ignore them while on the phone. She went on to say that he’d spent exorbitant amounts of money on vehicles and tattoos, and had a mistress in Florida.
Meggan added that she quit her private school teaching job to be a stay-at-home parent. She noted in the divorce documents that the couple claimed $233,000 in gross income for the year 2010. Spousal support, if any, was not listed.
Late Wednesday, Lambesis’ band mates posted a statement to As I Lay Dying’s website.
“As we post this, the legal process is taking its course and we have no more information than you do. There are many unanswered questions, and the situation will become clearer in the coming days and weeks. We’ll keep you informed as best we can.
Our thoughts right now are with Tim, his family, and with everyone else affected by this terrible situation – and with our fans, whom we love and draw strength from.
Thank you for your understanding, and as always, for your support of As I Lay Dying.”
– Jordan, Nick, Phil and Josh
In an interview with Artisan News about the alleged plot, San Diego County Sherriff’s Dept. Public Affairs Director Jan Caldwell commented, “It was good no one was hurt” and, “We averted a tragedy today.”
Lambesis is scheduled to be arraigned today (May 9).